A good mother always instructed their children in the hope that they mature into adults fulfilled respectable. However,
there comes a time when children feel they have received sufficient
advice and parents want to make their own decisions. This usually occurs long before children are able to face the world on their own. However,
when the child reaches adulthood, he or she has the right to make
decisions beyond the sphere of influence parents transition is always
difficult for parents and child . Relinquish
control of parents over their children that you need to break the
habits of parents long, especially in terms of how you communicate with
your child.
For
a successful transition from the answer to your child as a "child" to
meet him as an adult, it is essential that your child's condition is
recognized as an adult, which means that, as strange as it feels, you must leave your children to follow their passions and dreams without taking them to the task at every little twist. But
it is not necessary for you to feel like you're outside looking in,
when you can not share the interests of the adult your child. If you feel that your child does not want to do, it's probably because you acted as your child is still a child. Start to respect you as an adult and you will be amazed at the new roads that open.
Achieving
this will not be easy, but it means that you must press certain
decisions in the life of your child, even if you disagree with them. This
does not mean support their children as they walk in danger, but means
being honest with yourself that you advise your child the care and
attention or just a personal opinion. If
your children start using drugs, for example, you should walk in. But
if you're just doing something that you personally do not agree that
getting a strange piercing, it's time to go back. You do not want to sacrifice their relationship for the sake of superficial things.
The
most important in maintaining a healthy relationship with your adult
stage of the child is never stop to examine their own behavior. Do you act as the mother of an adult child or parent of a teenager? For
over a decade, which was used to establish rigid rules and ultimatums
necessary, making it easy to return to their old habits.
Motherhood does not stop when children reach adulthood. But to be the best parent, your parenting style must respect the individuality of their adult children. You
motherly advice, it is still valid, but it is essential to remember
that you are talking to an adult, not a child or teenager who has no
idea what the adult world is. Adjust're
communication style to meet the adult life of his son will take time
and effort, but once you finally make the transition, you benefit from a
relationship with their children that is as enjoyable as the
relationship that he had with them when they were children.
Do you feel your adult children to their mother boards is listening? Do you think it is because their children are stubborn and too idealistic? Well, maybe they are. But
there is a good chance that their inability to communicate is derived
from the fact that you are talking to them as if they were still
children and not adults. If
you want to save the mental distance between you and your adult
children, there are some simple principles that will help you,
accepting the fact that their children are no longer children.
